“When People Celebrate You Only Because Others Do”
In a world dominated by trends, social media influence, and crowd psychology, it’s easy to mistake noise for affection and applause for genuine admiration. But have you ever stopped to wonder are people truly celebrating you, or are they just joining a chorus already singing your praise?
Let’s explore this uncomfortable truth.
The Bandwagon Syndrome: Celebrated by Association
Many times, what appears to be admiration is simply mirrored behavior. People celebrate you not because they know you, believe in you, or even understand what you represent they just see others clapping, and they join in.
This is common in the lives of celebrities, politicians, mega-pastors, influencers, and even students who suddenly go viral. You post a picture and get 10 likes silence. A celebrity reposts it, suddenly everyone’s sharing it, commenting, and calling you “my person.”
Did you suddenly become more valuable?
No your perceived value increased because others affirmed you first.
Real-World Scenario: The Case of Tunde
Tunde was a passionate saxophonist. For years, he played in his church and at local events. People barely noticed him. They would pass him by, barely nodding. He even started questioning if his gift was worth anything.
One day, a popular musician discovered him, featured him in a viral video, and boom the same people who ignored him now couldn’t stop calling. Everyone said, “Tunde, I always knew you were special!”
But did they?
Truth is, many didn’t value Tunde’s talent until someone with status did. Their celebration wasn’t about Tunde. It was about aligning with what the crowd now admired.
The Illusion of Genuine Praise
It’s dangerous to build your identity around external celebration. Because the crowd is not always loyal. They’re loud, yes but not always true.
Today, you’re trending.
Tomorrow, you’re old news.
One minute, they call you “king,” the next, they’ll mock you when you fall.
If you’re celebrated because others are, then when others withdraw, so will they. That’s the sad reality.
The Psychology Behind It
People crave belonging. So when they see others celebrate you, they don’t want to feel left out. This is called social proof we believe something is good because others say it is.
Unfortunately, this means you can be widely loved without truly being known.
It’s not really you they admire it’s the image, the hype, the moment.
So What Should You Do?
- Know Who Truly Values You
Pay attention to those who clapped when no one else was watching. They are your real supporters family, friends, mentors who saw your light before it was popular. - Don’t Confuse Hype with Honor
Hype is loud, fast, and emotional. Honor is quiet, steady, and intentional. Learn the difference. - Stay Grounded in Identity
Whether they clap or criticize, remain rooted in who you are. Your worth doesn’t rise or fall with public opinion. - Test the Applause
Ask yourself: “If I lost popularity today, who would still stand with me?” The answer will sober you.
Final Thought:
You don’t need the world to celebrate you to be valid. Popularity is not proof of purpose.
So the next time you find yourself in the spotlight, take a breath, and ask:
“Are they cheering for me, or just echoing what others are doing?”
Because being celebrated by everyone doesn’t always mean you’re loved sometimes, it just means you’re visible.
And visibility is not always equal to value.
🖋️ Written by Astro D’ Great
✨ For those who’d rather be real than just be seen.
Astro 